How do I become more attractive? 17 Keys That Worked Like A Charm.
By Antoine G Larosiliere
” I too have felt unattractive for a prolonged period of time in my youth. “
Every once in a while, someone will ask me if I think they’re ugly. In my opinion, no one is physically ugly. The question we should be asking instead is, how do I become more attractive?
No one wants to feel ugly, but when we do; it’s a discouraging feeling. I’m familiar with this feeling. I too have felt unattractive for a prolonged period of time in my youth. When I did; it led to procrastination, social distancing and a poor attitude. At one point, I didn’t want to leave the house and go to school or the mall if I didn’t have a haircut. If feeling unattractive is where you are in your life, let’s do something about it. By the end of this article, you will learn what I’ve done to become more attractive.
#1 Speak with authority.
To make a lasting first impression, the way you speak has a lot to do with it. Attractive people do just that. You have to speak with purpose and conviction. It all starts with thinking before you speak. Choose every word carefully, because words are impressionable and hold weight; and once deployed, they cannot be retracted. Don’t speak too fast or too slow. Make sure you enunciate and speak clearly. Use the right amount of base to exhibit confidence. Change the inflection of your tone when appropriate to show conviction, passion, concern, and other sentiments.
#2 Smile often.
According to research, the most successful people smile the most, but other research indicates that smiling for men and women don’t necessarily have the same result. Whether you are a man or woman, smiling exudes attractiveness and is infectious in getting others to smile too. If you’re a man, you should smile; but not too often. According to a study from the University of British Columbia, “happy guys finish last.” More specifically, men who conveyed happiness were lower ranked than men who conveyed pride. In plain, men should let their smiles show more pride than happiness. On the other hand, men found women who conveyed happiness when the smiles were more attractive.
#3 Laugh often.
Laughing combined with smiling maximizes the effect of both. Combining them conveys happiness, success, and inner beauty. This combination emits positive energy, which will attract more positivity. It also relaxes you and relaxes the people around you to allow more positive and healthy experiences.
“Women and men find a confident or sexy walk to be very appealing.”
#4 Walk with confidence.
Sometimes the first thing someone sees when you pass by, enter or leave an area is your walk. So, it’s important to make that walk as appealing as possible. Women and men find a confident or sexy walk to be very appealing. A simple walk can exude confidence, swagger, and even happiness. Be also mindful that a walk can also exude arrogance, misery, nervousness and fear. To incorporate an attractive walk to your repertoire, you must…
- Research the kind of walk you want. Find videos of the people who’s walks exude the qualities you’re looking for.
- Pick your head. Do not walk with your head down, or raised too high up. Look straight forward and tilt it slightly upwards.
- Pull your shoulders back. Don’t exaggerate this adjustment. The idea is to not slouch your shoulders, but make the elevation of your chest even with your chin.
- Practice the walk of your choice in front of the mirror until it’s perfected.
#5 Stand and sit invitingly.
It is very important to resonate attractiveness when our bodies and mouths are moving. But, what we don’t realize is that it’s just as important to exude those things when we’re not moving. The confidence you have when you’re moving must transition to when you’re not moving. To sit and stand invitingly, you must…
- Adjust your posture: According to a 2012 study, good posture, even for a short period can increase testosterone levels by up to 20 percent.
- Stand with your feet slightly wider than your shoulders. According to Dr. Egbogah, standing that way “signals virility and fertility.
- Research 4 poses that exude confidence and attractiveness (2 for standing and 2 for sitting).
- Practice in front of the mirror until they’re perfected.
#6 Make eye contact.
If you’re able to maintain eye contact when you speak or with the people you are interacting with; it signals confidence, even if you’re not truly confident. It is simply a skill you must practice to sell confidence and attractiveness. Eye contact helps you concentrate as well as helps your audience pay attention to you. Not only will it make you more attractive, but it will also deepen the attraction of those who were already attracted to you.
#7 Find your perfect scent.
Have you ever walked into a room or passed an area, a wonderful scent hit you, and you had to find out where it’s coming from? Have you ever met someone and you couldn’t seem to forget about how wonderful they smelled, to the point where you had to ask them what they’re wearing? Those were a few examples of how finding the right scent affects others. We are all different, so, the key here is finding a scent that compliments your natural aroma. When you find one, it’s important not to drench yourself in it. One or two sprays should be more than enough. You must also choose a fragrance that compliments your deodorant of choice and your shampoo, body lotions and essential oils.
#8 Improve your wardrobe.
One of the most common qualities of someone who’s deemed attractive is how they dress. Upgrading your wardrobe will transform your appeal almost over night. You don’t have to be in the greatest shape to improve your wardrobe. But, you should choose clothing that compliments your body type, while covering your less attractive features.
#9 Add sex appeal.
To take your attractiveness to the next level, you must add sex appeal. The way you dress, walk, talk, sit, stand, and make eye contact will generally add some sex appeal to you. Sex appeal and attractiveness will be further enhanced with the implementation of some subtle mannerisms and flirtatious gestures. Try a gentle hand graze, a sweep of an arm around a waist, the light touch of a neutral part of the body, a light graze of the teeth against the bottom lip, even running your fingers through your own hair.
#10 Try wearing glasses or get contacts.
Adding or removing eyewear will absolutely add to your attractiveness. If you already wear glasses and your prescription lenses are too thick, then your options for fashionable eyewear will be limited. In that case, your best bet is to get contact lenses or save up for Lasik corrective eye surgery. If you don’t need corrective lenses, then find a fashionable frame with a clear lens that compliments your facial features. When all else fails, purchase a fashionable pair of sunglasses; which have been known to improve facial symmetry by concealing any slight blemishes around your eyes.
#11 Give yourself some height.
There are some things we can’t change about ourselves, and that’s ok. Accepting who we are and embracing our shortcomings is an unsung aspect of being attractive. Instead of trying to change those things, we can finess how these things appear. For instance, women finesse their height by wearing heels, and heels have been scientifically proven to make you look more attractive. Men can place a lift inside their shoes and wear colors that are the same shade. Experts say wearing such colors make us look taller, hence more attractive.
#12 Find the haircut that compliments you the best.
The right haircut can transform someone’s confidence almost immediately. It can transform someone who is generally viewed as unattractive to attractive; and transform someone who is perceived as generally attractive to absolute heartthrob material.
Men can also wear their facial hair in a manner that best suits their face. I know over the past several years, beards have been a thing, but not everyone looks good in a beard. With there being so many hair styles and facial hair styles, there’s one that’s perfect for everyone.
#13 Make sure your Hygiene is up to par.
There is no bigger turnoff then finding out someone who you were physically attracted to, has poor hygiene. A survey of Americans dating or in a relationship resulted in 45% of respondents saying self-care(hygiene) was the key to compatibility. Let’s be clear, when I refer to hygiene; I mean, showers, using the right deodorants if any at all, keeping your eyes, nose and ears clean, washing your hair, cleaning under your fingernails, even making sure your feet don’t stink. Good hygiene not only makes you more attractive; it helps prevent diseases, increase confidence, while allowing you to be socially and professionally accepted.
#14 Fix your teeth and your breath.
Have you ever thought someone was attractive, and then they smiled and your opinion changed? Was there ever a time when someone’s breath smelled so bad, you didn’t want them to speak to you, let alone laugh with you? If smiling and laughing helps make you more attractive, you have to make your smile and laugh as attractive as possible. Bad breath and bad teeth are two of the most universally unattractive qualities. A bad smile can be from overcrowding of your teeth, having missing teeth, and overbite, or an underbite. If your smile needs to be fixed, ask your orthodontist of possible solutions and get it done as soon as possible. Oral hygiene is gravely important to your overall hygiene, to stay on top of it you must make sure you…
- Floss between meals. At the very least, before you go to sleep at night.
- Brush your teeth after every meal. At the very least, before you go to bed at night.
- Use an electric toothbrush with a built in timer and set it for two minutes.
- Make sure you brush your lips and tongue as well. Try using a tongue scraper for greater effectiveness.
- Use mouthwash after you brush your teeth.
- Use teeth whitening stips or get professional teeth whitening done.
- Exfoliate your lips.
#15 Hide your worst features.
Not everything you put on will compliment you. Not every hairstyle fits the shape of your head or your face. We all have insecurities or features we’re not the fondest of, that we can’t just necessarily just get rid of. WHat we can do is camouflage them; blend them in so they’re not as noticeable. For example, if you don’t like your forehead, wear a hairstyle that covers it. I used to have scrawny legs, so I always wore pants. During the summer months, I wore linen pants.
#16 Exercise to craft your body.
Being physically fit has more benefits than I could even count. We already know that being physically fit is very appealing to the eye, and accommodates clothing that has a lot of sex appeal. Exercising also leads to being healthier, stronger and more durable. Being stronger, healthier and more durable leads to confidence; and confidence is a very attractive quality. We all are visual creatures; men more so than women and we must take advantage of that. Even a study from the University of Texas conveyed that men have a high preference for curvy backsides. Your physical appearance is the first thing people see. Before you open your mouth or, make a gesture; your appearance has already made the first impression. Women find physically fit men attractive, because they have the appearance of being able to protect them.
#17 Stay Moisturized.
Keeping your skin moisturized decreases the probability of having skin issues. Extremely dry or oily skin is bad for your skin and can cause acne or wrinkles. According to the British Journal of Dermatology, if you moisturize your skin, it can minimize the accumulation of wrinkles. If you’re a person of color, moisturizing your skin can also prevent ashiness. With that being said, last time I check; looking ashy and full of pimples isn’t attractive.
No one is perfect, and it’s not all about looks; but it’s something we can all improve. Feeling good about the way you look, is great for your confidence. Without confidence, you’re apprehensive to live happily. Hopefully this article has been helpful. Also visit my YouTube channel for more insight to these topics.